It is not uncommon to come across married men seeking a relationship with married woman. Not just the celebrities like films stars, industrialists, politicians, sportsmen, authors but the common man also is also having extra marital affairs or just flings. This sort of behavior is not only common, but the world is becoming immune to the stories of men cheating on their wives and wives cheating on their husbands
It may just start with an innocent friendship or even an acquaintance and one day cross the line over to extramarital relationship. It may also be called by other names such as infidelity, adultery or even cheating on the spouse. While the wife may accept or even tolerate once in a while a hug or even a kiss with other woman but may threaten the sanctity of the existing relationship or marriage if it happens too often. If the meetings, interactions or kissing progresses farther to more intimate kind of relationship it is sure to ruin the marriage or primary relationship
There have been numerous surveys which have been carried out to measure the rate of extramarital cases among the couples but rather than going into the statistics suffice it would be say that the reported infidelity hovers around 13 % with the peak of 20% occurring for couples in their 40s.
Similarly the reasons why married men seek for married women are many and varied. The most frequent three to four basic reasons for a married man to seek for a married – you must have guessed it – had to do with sex, connection or validation and then true love. So, let us explore the reasons why married men seek for married women.
For one reason or other, there may be lack of mutual understanding in the primary relationship. The husband may not feel emotional connect or feel lack of respect that he as the partner deserves. This lack of emotional satisfaction could be a compelling reason for men seeking emotional intimacy with another woman. Here physical intimacy may or may not be there.
Another variation to this could be men seeking emotional validation from someone else since the existing partners have been too busy with their individual priorities. Drifting apart over a period of time, the partners fail to acknowledge the needs that both have in their relationship. For instance, giving and receiving appreciation and emotional support are key factors in the emotional connection that partners feel toward each other.
Just for Fun
Even in a happy marriage, it is possible for married men to have a roving eye or even crave affection from a married woman. It is quite possible that one or both the partners involved can’t control their lust, this usually starts with locking of eyes followed by a casual affair and it quickly leads to an affair. After all, it’s not surprise that sex changes once your married. A better way to kill sex all together with your partner is having kids. Once kids are born, affairs skyrocket. It’s one of the biggest reasons why cheating sites like Ashley Madison exist & prosper, even after being hacked.
If caught or confronted, the logic usually given by such men is that just because someone is married does not mean that they can’t love someone married too.
Whatever were the reasons and circumstances that connected the married man to a married woman, he now starts enjoying it. I mean, there’s an incredible rush that occurs with a new woman that no longer occurs with your wife. That first touch, that moment of being wanted, all these emotions are feelings you no longer have with your wife. Once the intimacy starts, it truly is a rush unlike no other. Granted, most married men feel guilt after having an affair. Which is why I’ve always believed that having an affair is not for everyone.
Change in Socio Economic Status
Consider a married man who hails from a very modest background. Starting from the poorest strata of the society, he has used all his energy to educate himself, make a decent career. He has moved from a village or a small town to a metro town where is now seeking to establish himself with an idea of making a handsome income and carving a place for himself. But most striking aspect of his life is that he lacks connections to establish an identity.
The answer to his prayers comes in the form of a married woman who not only is well connected but can also be the one who is more caring, compromising and understanding towards the man. There is excellent communication between them leading to a good rapport. She caring, compromising and understanding towards the man. Of course, if left unchecked it will lead to a love affair and an extra marital affair.
The most important foundation of a marriage or the relationship is mutual trust. The other partner’s is his and her commitment, character and faithfulness are the flavors of the mutual trust. Hell can break loose if one discovers that his or her partner is cheating. How the husband reacts to such a situation depends on a number of situational, psychological and social factors. But in a relationship that is suffering, the desire to hurt the partner who is cheating seems to be one of the options available to the husband. He tries to seek a revenge by himself doing exactly the same – as he thinks it is OK to counter one wrong with another wrong.
Consider the situation or circumstances where the married man meets a married woman and is bowled over totally by not just one but by the combination of many of the reasons given above. It could be her beauty, her personality, her brain, her social status, some mysterious charm of her and he wants her to be a part of his life now. He can’t think of his future without her!!
Cheating Websites & It’s Rise
The reason cheating websites are on the rise is simple, access. By having access to women, men can live out the fantasy of having an affair. Sometimes, that’s all a man needs. He just needs to know that he could have an affair if he wanted to. Sometimes the mental stimulation by having an online affair is enough. For others, this online connection leads to the physical act of having an affair. If you’re going down this road, be sure to think with the right head! Whatever you do, you need to be discreet and smart about the adventure that lays before you.